I apologize in advance for the novel that this post has
become! Also, apologies for the at times strong wordings. We mean them to be strong not harsh. We have all the respect for the various approaches to Christianity. These are but expressions of the struggles that passed through our minds along the way and currently.
Wyoming has
been a time of complete transition for us. We went from believing that a house
church was the way to Catholicism. We both discovered passions in our lives
that we had not previously seen. We also came to face some of our deepest
failings including the depth to which we will go to avoid conflict and to please
those around us.
When we
first arrived in Wyoming, we sought out a house church and then attempted to
start one. After about five months of trying, we decided that we needed
fellowship. We began “church shopping” in Laramie.
After a while of struggling, we
decided to return to our former church home. It is a rather contemporary,
non-denominational church and the type that we had grown wary of overall. We
spent about four months there. We truly wanted to belong. However, we realized
that no matter how hard we tried to, we would never be able to go back to
non-denominational churches. We could no longer worship in such a setting. I
might say casual as a word to describe it but words can tricky sometimes.
We turned a Southern Baptist church
in town. We had no desire to change our theology just the way that we
worshipped. We believed that a more traditional Baptist church would fit our
convictions for worship while sticking somewhat closely to what we then believed
theologically. However, this was when we hit a wall. After years of struggle,
we were done. We were just done looking, done trying, and done serving all the
while with smiles on our faces. We would go church perhaps once, at most twice,
a month for next four months. We were at our end.
Late January of last year (2013),
we discovered a house church organization in Laramie. We felt again the beauty
and the fellowship that can come from such an approach. It was soon, however,
that we realized it was merely our feelings and not our intellect that were
involved. After a month, we attended an orientation so to speak. This was the
moment that it all began to click. Years of struggle and thoughts just in
shadow too thin to grasp began to appear.
We listened as they explained their
theology to us. They stressed how centuries prior Luther had reformed the
theology of the church but he had failed to reform the context. This organization
believed that God had ordained for them to reform the context. It was the
second reformation. For about an hour, this sounded wonderful to us. These
people genuinely believed God had called them to this and that the church is
meant to look as five verses (Acts 2:42-47) in the Bible explain it to be. After
the hour, a pit began to grow in our stomach.
How could a small group of people
claim that for nearly 2000 years Christianity had been getting it wrong? 2000
years including people who had dedicated their entire lives to God. God does
use ordinary people to reform his church but what makes them so special that
they have were the first to figure this out? And were they saying that the
Church was corrupted by the very generation discipled by the Apostles (as there
is evidence of some Catholic customs that early)? Then we realized, is not that
what every individual Christian does? We all have our own personal religion and
the Holy Spirit tells each individual the exact truth. We seek out support. We
fill our homes with books written by those who agree most closely with our
interpretations of Scripture. Yet, the Holy Spirit seems to be telling
different people vastly different things. Have you ever noticed how people can
spend so much time with God and yet believe completely different things about
theology? Mark and I realized that we were arrogant. Arrogant to believe that
despite the relatively little amount of time we spent with God (compared to people
who might spend years translating the Bible or pray for five hours a day), we
had been chosen to have the right answer. Yet, even if God did choose lay
people or this generation to finally see the truth, who is to say that it was
our truth or our experience with the Holy Spirit that was the right one? Are
not others just as strongly dedicated to seeking God and coming away with
different answers? Who are we to assume we have the answers? It is a very
culturally driven point of view to think that we have the solution to
everything.
We also began to struggle with the
idea that church could be based on five verses in the New Testament. Yet, seemingly
ignore the numerous verses in the Old Testament in which God had demanded
reverence or organized worship. Mark will speak on this idea specifically later
this week.
Unfortunately, this did not lead us
instantly to the Catholic Church but to frustration and despair. We spent close
to two months going to no church at all. I do not believe that there has ever
been a darker time in our faith. In fact, I believe we both nearly lost it.
Nothing made sense. How could Christianity be true? If the Holy Spirit was
real, if God was real, then why did everyone disagree so vehemently about what
He told them in the Scriptures? We began to notice during this time the
Scriptures on unity. Jesus and Paul called for unity again and again and we
stand here debating things that at times have frankly about two verses to
support them one way or another. During this several month period, we ranged
from anger at the current state of the church to doubting if Christianity was
true at all because of all the petty fighting amongst its followers.
These are the things that led us
first to the Catholic Church. Reverence and unity. We decided to go, just for one
Sunday, to see if there might be some truth. That Sunday changed our lives. It
was as if years of weight were lifted from our shoulders. There is only one way
that I can describe it. While following along with the beautiful liturgy, I
felt a stream running through my soul. For years, it had been dammed with
sticks and logs and mud but that morning, the dam released. I felt the living
waters of Jesus rushing through. I was freed. Mark had a similar reaction. He
said that most of all, he felt at home.
We sought to be open at this point
in the journey. We told many people that we were considering Catholicism. We
began RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults). However, we soon got
scared. We got scared because we realized how much of a departure from all that
we had known this would be. We got scared because people kept reminding us of
all the reasons that Catholics were wrong or believed heresies. We did not take
the time to hear from Catholics about what they really believed in these areas
nor did we take the time to consider we might not fully believe what
Protestants said. We decided it was too much of a risk after about two months. Having
gone to the Catholic Church for solely the purposes of reverence and unity, it
was still too easy for us to walk away when things got difficult.
After experiencing a liturgical
service, we could never go back to another style. In fact, we tried to one week
and ended up walking out. It was then that we considered the denominations. We
ruled out many because they seemed too easily influenced by the world around
them in order to get greater numbers. We
picked the Lutheran Missouri Synod Church in town and we spent the next seven
months there. It contained the liturgy but we were not challenged by any of the
theology. It was as if the denomination allowed us to be as close to Catholic
as possible, without rocking the boat too much with our Protestant friends and
family.
We really tried to convince
ourselves and everyone around us during this time that we were sold on being
Lutheran. We wanted to stay Protestant. It made it easy because now Mark could
be in ministry again. It made it easy because though a few people gave us some
grief about the infant baptism, most people seemed to respect our decision. It
seemed the perfect compromise. Everyone around us was happy and we still got the
liturgy at least. However, it only took a few months for us to feel the strain
of ignoring our conscience.
Mark and I each struggled in our
different ways with lying to ourselves. For nearly all of the time, we did not
even realize it. It was not until early December that we became aware. It is
funny how trying to please others so hard for so long can lead to you hiding
the truth from even yourselves. During one early December quiet time, it all
flooded in. Had we been right to walk away? We had not even given the other
side a chance. It did not change anything immediately but the doubts were
planted.
While in Florida for the holidays,
we met with Catholic convert friends and asked them of their experiences and
their struggles. They suggested several books and gave us things to think
about. We attended Mass and realized how much we had missed it. We were still not
certain. However, we decided that this time we would look at it alone.
Some have questioned that decision.
However, let us make this clear. We did not need to hear the reasons why we
should not be Catholic. We spent years listening to what Protestants had to say
about Catholics, their theology, and why it was all wrong. From what we had
seen about Catholicism at that time, it did not seem to be as heretical as
everyone had told us. Yet, we had never given Catholics the chance to explain
these issues to us. The few things that we had listened to them explain the
previous spring (for example, infant baptism) had changed our minds. Why not
listen to their side of the story? We wanted to give them the chance to explain
without the pressure from the other side. We wanted the freedom to explore it
with open minds. As we have the tendency to avoid conflict and please others,
it was necessary for us to do so without any outside input. There is one
Protestant couple with which we discussed our thoughts during this time for
they had previously proven an unbiased ear.
We turned first to the Catholic
books the Florida couple had recommended. We read specifically on issues like
Scripture alone, Faith alone, Mary, the Saints, infallibility, and the Pope. We
found that as we read, we agreed with the Catholics. We also found that there
were Bible verses that we had never previously considered and for which no
Protestant be it Baptist, non-denominational, or Lutheran explanation could
satisfy us. It was that simple. As we listened to their side for the first time
in our lives, we agreed with the Catholics.
So now, here we are. We are
becoming Catholic. We are the happiest we have ever been in our faith. We have
been led here through much pain and arrive at this place through much humility
recognizing our failings along the way even into this process of discussing our
conversion. We also come to this place with a sense of peace like none we have
ever felt before. For the first time, we are completely honest with what we
believe. We feel the freedom to embrace both religion and science and to recognize that there are holes in scripture alone. There are
still things we are figuring out. However, we are confident in our decision and
every journey is process.
We are happy to discuss questions.
Mark will address many of the questions that have been raised to us in his
blogging over the next few months. However, as we seek to do so in a respectful
manner, we ask that you pose your questions in the same way. We have received
much communication over the course of the last ten days. We appreciate all the
love, concern, and prayers because we believe that is where it comes from. We
appreciate most of all those who have chosen to voice concerns respectfully
recognizing that Mark and I have always sought God through prayer and His word.
We also recognize that we might have responded the same way as many have two
years ago even a little over a year ago. One thing we would encourage for
anyone who truly wishes to understand our decision or learn about the Catholic
Church would be to read one of the following three books: What Catholics
Really Believe by Karl Keating, Signs of Life by Scott Hahn, and Catholicism
and Fundamentalism by Karl Keating (my personal favorite). Each of these
books provides an overview of what Catholics have to say about the many misconceptions
and misunderstandings Protestants have about their beliefs. Mark has even
authorized me to say that if any are truly curious but unable to purchase or
borrow these books, we will purchase one for you.
Mark and I have read extensively
what Protestants have to say about what they believe and also what they have to
say about what Catholics believe as we are sure many of you have as well. However,
in considering an argument, should you not look at both sides? Is it really fair
to say you understand Catholic belief when all you have read is what
Protestants or angry former Catholics have written? Should you not listen to
the other side’s position as they describe it? We do not expect that all or
even any will come to the same conclusion as we did but we do hope that in
considering it, we may become respectful of each other’s differences.
Mark will begin writing later this
week from a newly converted Catholic’s view on theology. Feel free to interact
with us and even suggest certain topics for us to discuss. We are new to this
but if we do not know the answers, we will find out. We are happy to answer any
and all questions that are expressed in a respectful manner (i.e. not with personal attacks or belittling us or our intelligence).
We have no ill will towards any
Protestants and we have never met a Catholic that has expressed ill will towards
Protestants either. However, this last week has exposed to us the hidden (and
sometimes not so hidden) hatred that some Protestants have for Catholics. It is
not Biblical, it is not loving, and it is based on so many misconceptions. We
have also seen that some refuse to even consider or listen to another point of
view. It grieves us. Many comments have been misunderstandings of Catholic
beliefs and even personal attacks against us. We are so thankful for and appreciative of and aware of those who have approached this decision in a respectful way. Many Protestants are open to learning and for that we are grateful. We pray that in time all can
come to accept our decision. We know that this has caused some distress.
However, we felt it necessary to pursue that which we have seen and believe to
be true. May God bless each of you on your journey with Him.
Eight years ago, I completed a very similar journey--or so I thought! Turns out the conversion is only the beginning! Welcome home--and buckle up! ;o)
ReplyDeleteThank you for the encouragement! So often one adventure simply bleeds into another and we cannot wait to see where it will take us!
DeleteHey Mark, I was wondering if you wouldn't mind discussing the Virgin Mary in one of your posts? I will be the first to admit, that as a protestant, I don't know if I fully understand what Catholics believe beyond the virgin birth of Christ. Also, can you possibly talk about how the Holy Spirit has led the church to believe she (Virgin Mary) has intercession for believers? Oh, and we have missed you at T&B, I hope you can make soon; we have also been having some solid convictions about brotherly love while working through 1st John (Chap. 4: 7-1) :)
ReplyDeleteI most certainly can. That is one of the biggest ones. We'll probably divide discussion of Mary into several posts as there are many questions about her. I've missed it as well. Monday nights this semester have been a bit crazy but I hope to make it back soon.
DeleteFor what it's worth, I'm teaching an RCIA class (intro class for people wanting to become Catholic) in two weeks specifically about Mary. Would be happy to share!
ReplyDeleteWe love any and all resources. Thank you for offering. RCIA resources are especially helpful since it is introductory information.
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